Yep - totally agree with the rest - don't car wash at all, ever!!!
When I first got my Civic, I wanted it to stay beautifully brand new and shiny, so I took it to my local car wash twice a week - until after the 6th or 7th time, I started to notice those nasty circular 'swirl' fine scratches in the paint......
Stopped going, and also stopped being lazy and now do it myself everytime!!!!
